Debbie and Judy are twins—but Judy was born with cerebral palsy, and Debbie was not. Despite the severity of Judy’s brain damage, her parents chose to keep her at home with her three siblings well into adulthood. Her care was augmented by a succession of home attendants—until her doctor told Debbie that Judy’s care at home was wanting and she would not survive without nursing home care. Debbie Chein Morris tells of the emotional trauma she experienced when she was forced to place her sister—a sister unable to sit, stand, use a bathroom or make her needs met- in a new and strange environment. This is a memoir of love, grief and guilt and ultimately acceptance. Debbie has masters degrees from Queens College, Hofstra University and Bank Street College of Education.